Grace: “Divine means of help or strength, given through the bounteous mercy and love of Jesus Christ.” (LDS Bible Dictionary)

In the Book of Mormon we learn that “it is by grace that we are saved, after all we can do” (2 Ne 25:23).

I know sometimes people wonder about that balance between grace, and “all we can do”. To me, doing all I can do may not get me very far, but it is what shows the Lord that I can be trusted, that I am serious and sincere; it’s that effort that makes me moldable so I can be fit for His presence.

I like to think of Grace like a train ticket the Savior has bought and paid for. In my little analogy the train is Heavenly Father’s plan for getting His children back home. He has the perfect train on the perfect track, and it goes right back to Him. But the tickets are expensive— much more than we could ever possibly afford. If we gave all we had it still wouldn’t be enough. But, “thanks be to God”, the ticket's already paid for. That’s what Jesus Christ’s Atonement did. All we have to do is get on the train… and stay on. That’s something completely within our capacity, though it turns out to require all our effort just to do that much. But without that ticket, no matter how hard we tried, we wouldn’t get anywhere.

I am grateful for the gift of divine grace.

Through grace, I receive power to change from old ways to new.

Through the gift of grace, I will one day be resurrected, as will my loved ones whom I long to see again— death has lost the victory.

Through grace, I hope to finally “lay hold on eternal life”.

Through grace, even though my best efforts aren’t much, they are enough.

Jesus Christ, My Example

We have fewer than 200 pages telling us the story of Jesus’ mortal life, and many of those pages are retellings of the the same stories. The four gospels only cover 3 years of His life in any detail. We don’t know what He did in every situation, but somehow there’s enough in those pages to get a pretty good idea of what Jesus would do.

Jesus Was Patient
How often we read in the Gospels of Jesus being surrounded by crowds waiting for His attention and help and healing. Yet He never reacted and demanded to be left alone or for everyone to quiet down, or go away or wait their turn. Nor did He frantically run from person to person, trying to solve everything, or do two or three things at once. He was patient as He continually ministered to the needs of those around Him.

Jesus Didn’t Consider His Service Too Lowly
Much of Jesus’ time seems to have been spent caring for people’s physical needs. He fed the hungry. He washed feet, healed blind eyes, held the children, noticed the sad and comforted them. He didn’t consider this service below Him. He was the God who had created the earth, yet He wasn’t above eating with the poor and outcast and sinners.

Jesus Was Always a Teacher
Jesus recognized teaching moments. He knew when a heart was soft, when someone was ready to learn. He didn’t postpone teaching but took the time right then when the learner was listening, and taught in a way they could understand. And he didn’t just try to hurry through the lesson and give a lecture and call it good. He took the time to do it right; to ask thought-provoking questions, to tell stories, to listen to responses.

Jesus Spent Time With His Father
As important as meeting needs of the multitudes was, Jesus put first thing first and spent time with the Father. He went to wilderness places, private places, where He could pray and listen. There were people He could have been feeding or healing in those moments when He was alone with the the Father, but He was wise enough to know we all need to fill our cups so we’ll have something to share.

Jesus Kept Covenants
In all of these things Jesus gave us the example or doing hard, or inconvenient, or unpleasant tasks. He never shirked. He didn’t let moods dictate His decisions. But nothing compares to His willingness to descend below al things for us. When He performed the Atonement, to close the gap between us and our Father, it was harder than He had expected it to be. He felt weaker than He realized. He hoped there was some other way to accomplish what He had promised. But there wasn’t, so He submitted and fulfilled all the Father asked and all that He had Covenanted.

I am so grateful for His example. Just in these ways I’ve mentioned, His example gives me a guide for most of the choices I face from day to day. It may seem a trite and worn phrase, but how much better my life is when I truly consider, “What would Jesus do?”

What Jesus Christ Means to Me: My Healer

As Easter approaches I want to spend a few weeks sharing what the Savior means to me.

He is many things to me, but again and again I discover that He is my healer.

Just the other day something upset me and I knew I needed to feel calm in order to deal with it. Although I didn't exactly feel in the mood to pray, I did it anyway. As I did I sighed, letting go of the pain I was feeling; clenching it tightly, I wouldn't have been able to deal with the problem.

I loosened my grasp on my pain, but where did it go? Did the wrong done me cease to exist? No, it was real, but the Savior had taken it from me. He cares about all those pains! A beautiful passage in the Book of Mormon makes this clear:

And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people.

And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.

As I offered what hurt me to the Savior, He took that burden to free me. In that moment He once again healed me. It wasn't the first time. He's healed me when I'm afraid, when I'm weak; He's healed me from physcal aliments and bad habits and wrong thinking. But like the healing He offered me the other day, I have to reach out to Him for it.

His Healing Touch 

With just one touch the Savior healed a blind man’s eyes.

He hushed and stilled a mourning sister’s lonely cries.

A man tormented; Jesus spoke and devils fled.

At Jesus’ touch the dead were raised to live again.

A multitude of hungry mouths-- He fed them all.

The lepers, too, He healed when on His name they called.

The woman who for many years, such suffering bore

When once she had touched Jesus’ cloak, felt pain no more.

Then might I, too, bring  Him my needy, hungering soul?

My broken and my yearning heart--can He make whole?

My heart and eyes and hands and life to Him I’ll give.

If He’ll but touch them, He will heal them-- make me live!

I know that our Savior Jesus Christ has the power to heal every ill, and only awaits our turning to Him. In the simple act of prayer, of turning our thoughts to Him, we begin to access His grace.

What is Marriage?

When we were married someone gave us a throw that said, “Marriage: the Beautiful Blending of Two Lives”. After 20 years of seeing this quote every day, I have to agree there is truth in it, but in my words it would probably say, “the blending of two incomplete lives into one whole”. Whether or not that blending becomes something beautiful depends entirely on the effort and care of the artists at work. I don’t know for sure what the dictionary says marriage is, but it is certainly something a little different for each couple. One of the things we probably all have in common, though, is the potential to complete and complement each other.

Where one is weak, the other is strong

Each half of a married couple has different strengths, talents, skills, and weaknesses. Often in the areas where one of us is most weak, the other is strong. I might be on time for everything while my husband is late, yet he may be more sensitive to needs of people around him while I’m more task-oriented. And when we come together to create a family, there is that possibility of our family having the very best of attributes.

No one can care for another like a spouse can

As a husband and wife commit to love and care for each other, there is a potential for the kind of tender, sensitive care that no other relationship could ever benefit from. We know each other intimately and we spend our lives together pursuing one purpose. We know the struggles and needs and fears and frailties of the other and are the best fit in the world to minister to that one person.

We often know each other better than we know ourselves

It’s been funny to discover that often, after all these years, my husband sometimes knows me better than I know myself. When we recently played a “Newlywed” game at a Valentine’s party, we didn’t do very well. It wasn’t because my husband didn’t know my favorite book or dessert or song, it was because I didn’t; but when I heard his answers I thought, “Oh, that’s right!” I often seem to know things about him that he doesn’t recognize as well, like his potential and talents and abilities that he doesn’t dare to believe in.

We have complementary God-given roles

Perhaps the most important way we complement each other is in our God-given family roles. I, as wife and mother, have certain responsibilities, and it just so happens that by nature they are the ones I am more fit for. Likewise, my husband’s role fits just what he’s good at and enjoys. In the document “The Family: A Proclamation to the World”, modern prophets state what has long been assumed: that husbands and wives have divine and separate roles and yet are to help each other as equal partners. “Fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.” As I have put my best efforts into fulfilling my role, it’s a comfort to know that he is taking care of his.

A beautiful marriage takes effort and care and dedication. It takes each spouse fulfilling their roles, supporting the other, building each other rather than tearing down, and being patient and kind. But the blending of two incomplete lives into one can truly be beautiful.